Divorce – Do It Right

Divorce – Do It Right

When Love Ends: Divorce Mistakes That Could Cost You

by Joyce Diaz


The path of divorce is often strewn with obstacles that, if not navigated carefully, can lead to regrettable mistakes. These errors can cause significant financial and emotional distress.

This article compiles a list of some common divorce mistakes to avoid, providing you with the knowledge you need to traverse this difficult journey more smoothly.

Letting Emotions Rule

Divorce is, by nature, an emotionally charged process. It signifies the end of a relationship that once held promise and can stir up a whirlwind of feelings, from anger and resentment to sadness and despair. However, allowing these emotions to dictate your decisions during the divorce process can lead to serious missteps.

Acting on impulse or out of spite can prompt you to make rash decisions that are not in your best interest in the long term. For instance, you might be tempted to rush through proceedings to speed up the process, but this could result in overlooking important details in agreements, which could have significant financial implications.

Similarly, intense emotions can cloud your judgment when it comes to negotiations over assets and custody. Anger may push you to fight for everything to win the divorce, but this approach often results in protracted legal battles, escalating legal fees, and strained relationships.

On the other hand, feelings of guilt or a desire for a quick resolution might lead you to concede more than necessary, leaving you in a disadvantaged position post-divorce.

Remember that divorce is essentially a legal process and should be treated as such. Decisions based on clear-headed analysis rather than emotional reactions can help ensure a fair outcome.

Failing to Re-evaluate Finances

Divorce can be a financial minefield, and one of the most common mistakes people make is failing to thoroughly re-evaluate their financial situation. This oversight can have serious repercussions.

For instance, if you don't fully understand your current financial status — including your income, assets, liabilities, and expenses — you may agree to a settlement that appears fair on the surface but leaves you in a precarious position financially. Understanding your financial landscape can ensure you can maintain your lifestyle post-divorce and secure your financial future.

Failing to re-evaluate your finances can also impact your long-term financial planning. Many people focus solely on the immediate division of assets, overlooking the future costs of retirement, healthcare, and children's education. Without a clear understanding of your post-divorce financial situation, you may be ill-prepared for these expenses.

Be sure to discuss your current finances with your lawyer and conduct an in-depth analysis of your post-divorce financial outlook. Taking a comprehensive approach to assessing your finances can help keep you on solid ground, both now and in the future.

To learn more, reach out to a local divorce attorney.   


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Divorce – Do It Right

Hello. My name is Stephanie Laurel. I have recently been through a divorce, and although I don’t wish it on anyone, I do wish that everyone could come out of the proceedings feeling they have been taken care of. My husband and I had been married twenty-eight years. We have four children, two of which are still under eighteen years of age. We owned the home we lived in and had a vacation home in a different state. We are civilized people, we get along fairly well considering, but no matter how much we thought we could go through the divorce process without lawyers, it wasn't possible. We each hired a divorce attorney to represent us. Most of the negotiations went well, but when we hit a rough spot the attorneys took over. Thank goodness. I’m going to share more about the experience and hope it helps you.